Helping Women and Children Triumph Against Family Violence Since 1988

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     If you need immediate care, please call us toll-free at

   1-888-558-0468

If our house is full or you need to leave Chilliwack, contact VictimLINK free at

1-800-563-0808.

They have a 24 hour crisis line that will help you find a safe place to stay

 Family Violence Appears in a Variety of Ways

Threatening You

Saying he will to do something to hurt you

Saying he will leave you, kill himself, or harm your children

Forcing you to drop legal charges against him

Coercing you into doing something illegal

Intimidating You

Using facial expressions and gestures that make you scared

Destroying things

Showing you weapons

Emotionally Abusing You

Causing you to feel sad, unworthy, or guilty

Calling you names

Saying that your crazy

Using mind games

Doing things to humiliate you

Isolating You

Controlling what you do, who you see and talk to, what you read, and where you go

Minimizing the Abuse

Calling you a "Cry Baby"

Telling others the abuse didn't happen

Blaming you for his abusive behaviour

Using Children

Causing you to feel guilty about your children

Relaying messages to you through your children

Harassing you during visitations

Saying he will take your children away

Using Male Privilege

Expecting you to serve him

Not allowing you to make any big decisions

Acting like the "master of the house"

Defining his role as superior to yours

Economically Abusing You

Not allowing you to have a job

Not allowing you to have your own bank account

Your "allowance" is the only access you have to money

If this sounds like your partner, you have the right to call us for help!

Xolhemet Society - 1-888-558-0468

"Someone Who Cares"